Like when they made Salt a movie about a woman and had to rewrite the wife-now-husband's role because when a man played it, it suddenly looked absurd.

See, for me, I hated like fuck that they did that because it wasn't absurd. It isn't absurd that a frigging ordinary scientist who studies spiders needs rescuing. Or gets rescuing. The idea that it's somehow ~emasculating~ for a male character to be vulnerable, to be hurt, to need to be rescued or supported or have a significant ugly personal-vulnerability experience is what's absurd, at least to me.

But then, I hate the "men cannot be victimized" tropes of most fiction as much as I hate the "women MUST be victimized" tropes. And for roughly the same reasons. And spend a lot of time writing counter to both of them.